Yes, this was on my dream list. I didn't want them just to be a gentleman to me, but I wanted them to be a gentleman to those around me. And yes, I married a gentleman.
I remember going over to my inlaw's house wet, because we had not used an umbrella. My FIL looked at then my boyfriend and told him that chivalry is not dead. My husband was trained to be a gentleman!
Back in the days that I traveled on Encounter, I remember being in Logansport, Indiana, (why I remember where I was I don't know) when a team guy went to open the door for me. I told him that I was fully capable of opening the door for myself. He looked at me and told me that his mom taught him to be a gentleman. I remember looking at him and saying something like, I have muscles, I can open the door.
Fast forward a few months. My parents came to visit me at camp and we made a trip to Hershey, Pensylvania. I can smell it now! Yes, they have crockpots of chocolate on their factory tour that they fan towards you. Anyways, I held the door for my mom to walk into Hersheys. My dad walked up behind me and took the door from me and I walked through.
Why did I respond differently in the two different situations. I wish I knew. One thing I know, is that I needed to learn to be a lady. I saw this the picture the other day on pinterest.
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Yes, I am not naturally a lady. I think the feminist movement has encroached on those of us that are not feminists. I know I can hold a door by myself, but I also need to be willing to let a guy hold it for me.
If I want a guy to be a gentleman, I need to first be a lady.
Can you think of any areas that you fail to be a lady?
How are you training your child to be a lady or a gentleman? I would love to hear what you are intentionally doing to train them!
